Spirituality for Beginners

Fr. Bede's almost-daily reflections. When it comes to the spiritual life, we're all beginners. I also send these out by email. Contact me at bcamera@anselm.edu. God bless!





Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Duality, Part Two: Touching the Pain

You’ve become aware that there are times when you are not able to be inclusive, but rather think of others as THEM. Like that person who speaks with a heavy accent, or someone who doesn’t dress appropriately (as you define it) or people in a different socio-economic class as you. Or maybe even the neighbor whose dog barks too much.

Here’s a quote from Henry Wadsworth Longfellow: “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each person’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm any hostility.”
And here’s something my juniormaster often used to say to me back in the 80’s: “You never know what kind of burden the other person may be carrying around.”
Well, some times I got to find out. More than once I’ve experienced being part of a support group or an encounter group, or a faith-sharing group where the group of strangers I was sitting with gradually became a group of peers as each of us took a risk and shared some of our own pain and struggles with the others. These unifying experiences were full of grace.
Become sensitive to that pain and those burdens and you grow closer to Christ, who made the ultimate sacrifice for the sake of that pain. “Because of the ontological unity of Christ with the whole human race, the sacrifice was a bloody crucifixion. United with us in being and in love, Christ took on himself all the hatred, rebellion, derision, despair (‘My God, my God, why has thou forsaken me?’)—all the murders, all the suicides, all the tortures, all the agonies of all humanity through all time and all space. In all these Christ bled, suffered, cried out in aguish and desolation.  . . . At that moment death is swallowed up in life, the abyss of hatred is lost in the bottomless depths of love.” (Olivier Clement: The Roots of Christian Mysticism, p. 44)
Sense the pain in the other, even if you do not know the specifics. When you are able to do that, then the other is no longer THEM but becomes part of US. And the cross takes on a newer, more poignant significance for you.

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